I Hired an Alice

by Chris on September 19, 2011

Part 1:

I’ve been threatening it for years. “I work full-time!” “I earn the money.” “I shouldn’t have to work this hard!”


What finally broke me? I made a list. Wanna see part of it? Let’s say you do.

  1. Work full-time
  2. Raise a family
  3. Write a blog
  4. Help develop a national conference (Holla! Haven!)
  5. Go back to college
  6. I’ll spare you #7-33

Did you see it? #4…. Curse you, #4. I signed up for post-graduate classes, and I knew something had to give. Crying to my husband, I knew I couldn’t take on one. more. thing. Oddly enough, he agreed.

Part 2:

What else was left, but to find someone to help me out? Here’s where I got kind of bummed out. I finally reached out to some of my friends and co-workers, and I realized that nearly ALL of them had cleaning ladies! Then I found out that some of my stay-at-home mom friends had cleaning ladies!!! Wha????

(Brilliant picture, by the way)

I couldn’t understand why all these women that I consider confidants of mine had never told me that they get help. They can’t do it all either. “Best money I’ve ever spent!” “I couldn’t live without her!” “I haven’t mopped a floor in months!” That’s all fine and great, but why didn’t these women feel compelled to share that with others?

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not these women I’m upset with. It’s the idea that if we get help, we’re somehow failing. However, I went months (years?) thinking, “Well, no one else is getting help. Why should you need to?” I’m getting a cleaning lady, and I want the world to know. We can’t do it all. We shouldn’t have to do it all.


Ruh Roh…getting preachy. I’m not alone here though, right? If you need help, get. it. Don’t worry about what others will think and certainly don’t wait for others to give you justification (lesson learned). She’ll be here Wednesday. And yes…I am cleaning the house to prepare for her. I’m not normal.


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